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Joy is me

Joy, being me. Joy in me, joy in you. Joy in flow and joy in slow. Joy in being, joy in sleeping, Joy in go, joy in no. Joy in walking, joy in talking. Joy in silence, and in laughter. Joy for loving, and for holding, Joy for boldness and for going. Joy in brightness. Joy in darkness. Joy in the depths of everlasting harshness. Joy in grieving, honouring the passion of No! and Not this! And joy in the despair, the never ever knowing-ness Joy in peace, joy in worry. Joy in calm, joy in scurry. Joy in quiet

Violent cistems: Trans experiences of bathroom space

Sharing this important blog by Nigel Patel> Transgender people in South Africa face problems with safe access to spaces that have been shaped and gendered by colonisation and apartheid. Cape Town, despite being labelled ‘the gay capital’ of Africa, contains bathroom spaces that carry this often unscrutinised violent legacy. This qualitative study deals with the experiences of discrimination and violence against transgender people of colour within the bathroom space. The study participants comprised ten transgender people of colour. Their different narratives demonstrate racist, sexist and transphobic modes of violence experienced in relation to the toilet space. In doing so, they

Being There Inhabiting the Moment with Traumatized Teens

By Martha Straus James was a depressed and lethargic 13-year-old boy who’d almost given up when I first met him. During the time I treated him, he went through some death-defying experiences, two psychiatric hospitalizations, and a tough court hearing, as well as a therapeutic turning point in which he discovered something that gave his life meaning. Although it’s been a long time since we first spoke, I remember that first hour vividly; I can still see him shuffling slowly, reluctantly, into my office. He kept one earplug in, the other draped around his neck, blaring Metallica, a band that the

Is anxiety tripping you up? Can it be helped?

The Difference Between Normal Anxiety And An Anxiety Disorder. The line between the two can be blurry. Here’s how to know when it’s time to reach out for help. By Jenna Birch Whether you’re worried about a job interview or concerned about your parents’ health, anxiety is part of being human. But when should your level of worry be cause for concern? It’s hard to define anxiety disorders by their symptoms because anxiety affects everyone and it manifests in different ways. It’s also not all bad. Anxiety does serve an important purpose, according to Joseph Baskin, a psychiatrist at the Cleveland Clinic. “From

Healthy Romance and Sensitivity

Attachment Styles and Highly Sensitive People. What predicts healthy romance? By The Esposito Institute Let’s look at the research on attachment styles to help us understand how to create healthy romantic relationships. We unconsciously act the way we do in romantic relationships for a good reason. Human beings have an innate drive to form emotional bonds with people who are precious to us. We suffer when we aren’t able to create secure bonds. The need for secure attachment is part of our inherited survival strategy. Historically, we survive better in packs than alone. Solitary confinement is one of the most

Why we feel the need to worry, and mistrust happiness.

Parenting impacts on partnering

EXPRESSION OF AFFECT AND IDENTITY. A mother Nyala and her young son are grazing below me as I sit here in the bush veldt in early summer. His coat is still fluffed and spotted, and his appetite voracious. The mother leads him to the water hole where they both drink, then he walks away to find green shoots on the trees to eat. She notices me watching but seems unthreatened; her ears are tuned in, turning in the direction of her young, as they graze, many feet apart, across my path. I am reading in Keeping the Love You Find

Every morning a new arrival

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honourably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. Rumi

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