Attachment Styles and Highly Sensitive People. What predicts healthy romance? Let’s look at the research on attachment styles to help us understand how to create healthy romantic relationships. We unconsciously act the way we do in romantic relationships for a good reason. Human beings have an innate drive to form emotional bonds with people who are precious to us. We suffer when we aren’t able to create secure bonds. The need for secure attachment is part of our inherited survival strategy. Historically, we survive better in packs than alone. Solitary confinement is one of the most devastating forms of punishment.
Pablo Picasso once said “The meaning of life is to FIND your gift; The purpose of life is to SHARE it!” That’s why I LOVE the work I do and the people I work with!
EXPRESSION OF AFFECT AND IDENTITY. A mother Nyala and her young son are grazing below me as I sit here in the bush veldt in early summer. His coat is still fluffed and spotted, and his appetite voracious. The mother leads him to the water hole where they both drink, then he walks away to find green shoots on the trees to eat. She notices me watching but seems unthreatened; her ears are tuned in, turning in the direction of her young, as they graze, many feet apart, across my path. I am reading in Keeping the Love You Find
This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honourably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. Rumi
Anger, a friend? It’s worth thinking more about anger. What comes to mind now is Sue Monk Kidd in Dance of the Dissident Daughter saying that we think of only 2 things to do with anger we feel: one is to bottle it in to keep the peace, the other is to express anger and hurt people – both are destructive. She talks of the 3rd way – to use anger to begin a process of change.
After spending decades of my life in a desperate attempt to pass every arbitrary test placed before me by the educational system and society, I have to be constantly reminded that the end goal of all this striving is to live joyfully! Martha Beck: Expecting Adam
April, come she will When streams are ripe and swelled with rain May, she will stay Resting in my arms again June, she’ll change her tune In restless walks, she’ll prowl the night July, she will fly And give no warning of her flight August, die she must The autumn winds blow chilly and cold September, I’ll remember A love once new has now grown old © 1965 Words and Music by Paul Simon http://www.paulsimon.com/us/music/paul-simon-songbook/april-come-she-will Do you ever get bothered that most of what we read or sing or hear about autumn, the terms are from the Northern hemisphere? I